Whatismoreimportanttoyou,successorhappinessinyourcareer?幸福才是真正的成功OnlyHappinessisRealSuccess人类一切努力的目的在于获得幸福。——欧文Humankindstrivesallforhappiness.——OwenStudentName:WilliamHuang(WenmingHuang)StudentNumber:057100275选择了这个题目以后才发现，这是一个非常复杂的心理学和哲学课题，我不知如何在8分钟左右阐述清楚我的观点，所以我选择了讲故事。我先声明一点，由于一些人名和地名都是我从中文音译过来的，可能拼写错误。让我们从一则阐释幸福、隐喻人生的经典寓言故事开始。Ididn’tknowthisisaveryplicatedpsychologyandphilosophysubjectuntilIchosenit,Idon’tknowhowtoexpatiateonitneither,soIchosentotellstories.Iwouldliketodeclareatfirst,somepersonnelnamesandplacenamesmaybewerespelledwrong,becauseItransliteratedthemfromChinese.Let’sbeginwithaclassicalfablewhichexpatiatesonhappinessandparestolife.寓言：天使的百合波斯国王哈里发厌倦了王权所赋予他的一切奢华与享受，于是向天堂的管理者祈祷能让他成为一名不为人知的普通市民，找回做个简单之人的快乐和舒适。就在当晚在波扎的一个贫穷的村落，一个乞丐也向天堂的管理者祈求得到哈里发的舒适和享受。于是天堂的管理者唤来两位美丽的天使，在巴格达哈里发的宫殿和波扎乞丐的茅舍中间种下了一株来自天堂的百合，并召唤他们在天使种下的百合处相遇。就在“天使的百合”处，这两个人相遇了，他们找到了各自的幸福，不再为原先的欲望而苦恼，过上了一种宁静、安定和纯美的生活。Fable:Angels’lilyHarappa,thekingofPersia,wassickofallhisluxuryandenjoymentwhichthekingshipendowedhim,andprayedtoGodtobeeanunknownordinarycitizeninordertogetbacktopleasureandfort.Attherightnight,inapoorvillageofBoca,abeggarprayedtoGodtogetfortandenjoymentwhichHarappahad.TheGodcalledobeautifulangelstoplantalilythatefromheavenbeeenHarappa’spalaceinBaghdadandthebeggar’shutinBoca,andletHarappameetthebeggaratthelily.Justattheangels’lily,theopeoplemeteachother,foundtheirownhappiness,wasnotsickoftheoriginaldesireanymore,andhadapeaceful,stableandpurelife.

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财富与幸福感西方发达国家很早开始幸福感研究，现代意义上的幸福感研究以WannerWilson(1967)撰写的《自称幸福的相关因素》为标志。中国人于2006年才开始把GDP与“幸福指数”结合起来，强调主观幸福感，将幸福感纳入社会发展的考核指标体系中。“幸福度”出现在***的一些报告中。研究表明不是收入越高越幸福。总体上说国民经济总产值与幸福感正相关，人均收入越多，人们越幸福。但是当人均总产值超过8000美元的时候，幸福感受与经济的相关就不明显存在了。根据著名心理学家赛利格曼的观点，财富只是缺少时才对幸福有较大影响，可当财富增加到一定水平后，财富与幸福的相关就小多了。即便是在福布斯排行榜中前100名，身价在1.25亿的富翁，也只是比中等收入的人稍微幸福一点而已。根据北京的调查，家庭收入4000元以下时，幸福感随着收入增加而增长，4000元至7000元收入的家庭幸福感最高且较为稳定，但收入超过7000元时，收入与幸福感的关系变得复杂，当家庭收入超过15000元，并处于15000元到30000元时，幸福感急剧下降，与1500元的家庭一样。1.WealthandthefeelingofhappinessWesterndevelopedcountriesstartedtoresearchthefeelingofhappinessveryearly,thesymbolofhappinessfeelingresearchinmodernsenseis“relationalfactorsofself-styledhappiness”whichwaswrittenbyWannerWilsonin1967.Chinesedidn’tintegrateGDPwith“happinessexponent”until2006,thesubjectivehappinessfeelingareemphasizedandarebroughtintothechecksystemofsocietydevelopment.Thewordof“degreeofhappiness”appearsinsomegovernmentreports.Theresearchshowsitisnotalwaysthecasethatmorewealthmorehappiness.Asawhole,GDPispositiveinterrelatedwiththefeelingofhappiness,morewealthmorehappiness.ButwhenpercapitaGDPisover8000US$,thecorrelationbeeenhappinessfeelingandeconomyisnotsoobvious.AccordingtoSeligman,afamouspsychologist,onlywhenthereisalackofwealth,ithassuperioreffecttohappiness,thecorrelationbeeenwealthandhappinessbeesmuchlesserwhenwealthreachessomelevel.Eventhosetop100inFoxwealthlist,themoneybagswhoown125millionUS$feelalittlehappierthanthosemiddle-inepeople.ThesurveyinBeijingindicates:Whenfamilyineisunder4000RMB,moreinemorehappinessfeeling;Forfamilieswhoseinearebeeen4000and7000RMB,theirhappinessfeelingarehighestandmorestable;Butthecorrelationbeeenineandhappinessfeelingbeeplicatedwhentheirineareover7000RMB;Furthermore,whenfamilyineareover15000RMB,andeintothelevelfrom15000to30000RMB,theirhappinessfeelingplummettothesamelevelasfamilieswhoseineisonly1500RMB.2幸福才是真成功一个发人深省的故事：一位哈佛大学毕业的经济学博士来到墨西哥海岸度假。遇上一位渔民拎着几条大鱼从一条小渔船上下来，看到这位博士，渔民便热情地邀请他到家中做客。用鲜美的鱼来招待他，博士非常感动，就和渔民拉起了家常。他关切地询问起渔民平常的日子是怎么过的，渔民说，他的生活很简单，每天的任务就是去海边捕几条足够全家享用的鱼，然后带回家交给妻子，其余时间就是和家人在一起，或和几个朋友聚在一起喝点小酒打打小牌什么的。博士觉得这种生活很单调也很辛苦，他决定利用自己在所学的经济学知识帮助这位渔民。让他出人头地，过上更加精彩富足的生活。渔民听了之后，当然很高兴，就问博士有什么好办法帮助他。博士说“如果我是你，我还可以每天多打一些鱼，除了自己吃的，还可以拿出去卖。钱攒多了再去买一条船，那时你就能捕更多的鱼挣到更多的钱了。”渔民问：“挣那么钱之后呢？”“等到钱挣得足够多了，你还可以组织一个船队去搞远洋捕捞捕鱼，去银行贷款，增加设备，扩大经营规模，自己成立一个鱼罐头加工厂，然后成立一家国际大企业，当上了大老板，到那时，你就要什么有什么了。甚至也可以来哈佛读书”“再往后等你老了，就把企业交给别人管，你就轻松了”博士越说越兴奋。“那时我还能干什么？”“你可以时不时地来海边休假，邀上几个朋友，坐在这凉爽的墨西哥海边，烹上一条鲜鱼，喝点美酒，想做什么就做点什么，那时的你该是多么幸福啊！”“可是，我现在不已经是这样了么？”渔民问。博士哑然了。-----是啊，他还能说什么呢？原以为达到了理想的巅峰，可绕了半天却发现，自己只是回到了起点。欧文告诉我们，人类一切努力的目的在于获得幸福。这个故事告诉我们，“幸福”才是最大的“成功”。……2．OnlyhappinessisrealsuccessAthought-provokingstory:Aneconomicdoctor,graduatedfromHarvardUniversity,cametotheMexicoseashoreforvacation.Hemetafishermanwhowentashorewithafewbigfishes.Seeingthisdoctor,thefishermaninvitedhimfervidlytovisithishomeandfetedhimdeliciousfish.Thedoctorwasaffectedandchattedwiththefisherman.Heshowedhisconcernedathowthefisherman’sdailylifewas.Thefishermantoldhim,hislifewassosimplethatheonlywasrequiredtocatchenoughfishesforhiswholefamilieseverydayandbroughthometohiswife,andhespenttherestoftimewithhisfamilies,ordrankandplayedcardswithhisfriends.Thedoctorthoughtthiskindoflifewasnotonlyboringbutalsohard,hedecidedtohelpthefishermanwiththeeconomicknowledgehelearntandmadehimstoodoutwithmorewonderfulandabundantlife.Thefishermanwassogladtoaskthedoctorifhehadanygoodidea.Thedoctorsaid,“IfIwereyou,Iwouldcatchmorefishes,sothatIcouldsellsomeexceptwhatIneeded.Whenyouhaveenoughmoney,youcanbuyanotherboatformorefishesandmoremoney.”“Then?”thefishermanasked.“Thenyouhaveenoughmoneytoanizeafleetfordeepseafishing.Youcanloanfrombanktoaddequipmentandenlargebusinessandevenyouwillhaveyourownfishcannery.Thenyoucanbeabossofaninternationalenterpriseandhavewhateveryouwant,evenbeeastudentofHarvardUniversity.”Thedoctorwasmoreandmoreexcited,“Youcanhandyourenterpriseovertootherswhenyouaregettingolder,thenyouareeasy.”“ThenwhatcanIdo?”“Youcanetotheseashoretospendyourvacationfromtimetotime,invitesomefriendstogatherbythecoolMexicoseaforfish-cookinganddrinking,anddowhateveryouwant,thenhowhappyyouareatthattime.”Thefishermanasked,“Butdon’tIhavesuchalife?”……Whatanymorecanthedoctorsay?Heoriginallythoughtitreachedthedreamboat,buthefoundthathewentbacktotheoriginalpointafteralargeround.Owentoldus,humankindstrivedallforhappiness.Thisstorytoldus,happinessisrealhappiness.让我们相会在“天使的百合”处让我们回到开篇的寓言。这则寓言一直流传于世，成为一则阐释幸福、隐喻人生的经典哲理故事，告诫所有想在事业上取得成功，想让自己生活快乐的人，都应该在“天使的百合”处停下。无论做什么事，都不能做得过火，不能超出极限，不能逾越“天使的百合”的界限，因为天使总是将她们手中最辉煌、纯美的百合种植在贪婪与浪费之间、自尊自大与自暴自弃之间、懒惰与过度操劳之间、清醒与昏睡之间、贫穷与富裕之间、懦弱与莽撞之间、憎恶与崇拜之间、愚蠢与疯狂之间、巨人与侏儒之间……拿破仑说过：我一生中真正感到幸福的时间加起来还不到1小时。明白了“幸福才是成功”的道理后，我们比拿破仑还要成功，应当不是什么难事。让我们相会在“天使的百合”处，并祝福所有的亲朋挚友在“天使的百合”处停下！Let’smeetatthe“angel’slily”Let’sgobacktothefablementionedatbeginning.Thisfablespreadovertheworldallthetime,andbecameaclassicalphilosophyfablewhichexpatiatehappinessandparetolife.Itwarnsthose,whowanttosucceedincareerandhaveahappylife,muststopatthe“angel’slily”.Whateveryouwanttodo,youshouldn’tbeoverreachandbeyondthelimit,don’toverstep“angel’slily”,becauseangelsalwaysplantthemostsplendidandpurestlilybeeencupidityandwaste,beeenself-consequenceandabandonment,beeenslothandoverwork,beeensobernessandspoor,beeenpovertyandrichness,beeenrecreanceandobtrusion,beeenhateandadoration,beeenfollyanmadness,beeengiantandmanikin……Napoleonsaid:Ihavelessthan1hourhappytimeinmywholelife.It’snotdifficultforustoachievemoresuccessthanNapoleonbecauseweknow“happinessisrealsucess”.Let’smeetatthe“angel’slily”,andwishallourfriendsstopat“angel’slily”!　　HowtomakeSuccessDifferentpeoplehavedifferentviewsonsuccess.Someholdthatmakingagreatdealofmoneymeanssuccess.Othersarguethatholdinganimportantpostinthegovernmentmeanssuccess.Stillothersbelievethathavingahighacademictitleatafamousuniversityoraresearchinstitutemeanssuccess.Inmyopinion,successmeansbrilliantachievementinourwork.Inotherwords,nomatterwhatwedo,makingoutstandingcontributionstothedevelopmentofourcountryandbringinghelpandhappinesstoothersissuccess.Toachievesuccess,weshould,firstofall,haveaclearlong-termgoalinourlife.Besides,weshouldhaveshorttermgoalsindifferentperiodsoflife.Asweknow,itistheseshorttermgoalsthatmakeourlong-termgoalpossible.Second,weshouldbebothperseverantandhardworking.Whateverwedo,therearealwaysopossibilities:successandfailure.Weshouldneverloseheartwhenweeacrossdifficultiesorwhenweareconfrontedwithfailure.Instead,weshouldlearnfromourexperience,buildupourconfidenceandworkevenharderand***artertowardsourpurpose.Third,weshouldfollowtheexamplesofthosewhoaresuccessfulandlearnfromthem.Finally,weshouldtrytogetalongwellwithourclas***atesandcolleagues.Weshouldcareforeachotherandhelpeachotherinourstudy,ourworkandourlife,becauseteamworkisofgreatimportanceintherealizationofourdream.Ifwecanfollowtheseprinciples,wewillcertainlyachieveremarkablesuccessinourlife.